Hate Is Not The Opposite Of Love
Two things have happened this morning that suggest today is going to be...interesting (bear in mind, I began writing this at 10 minutes to 7 am so I've got loads of the day left in which more "interesting" things can happen).
The first incident occurred very early this morning and had me freaking out for several hours -- I had an alarming dream in which I found out that someone I care about had died. As far as I'm aware "Gustav" still has a heartbeat, so I'm hoping that, like the Death card in a Tarot deck, the "death" in my dream was just a metaphor for certain events that appear to have recently transpired in the life of "Gustav".
The second event, and the one I'm going to focus on, happened just a short time ago on Facebook. Someone I was "friends" with has deleted me. To be honest, I have been expecting it for ages now, I'm a bit surprised it's taken this long. But the reason I was deleted today of all days (I'm sure) is because of something I said on a post of this person's this morning. The original rant went something like, "I'm not really a hater, it's just that some people make it easy to hate them." My response to that was that you have to care in order to hate, and why do you care about someone you obviously consider insignificant?
That's a good question. There's an awful lot of "hating" in the Metal community (yes, the person in question is a member of that community) with people professing hatred toward people that, in the very next breath, they proclaim to not care about.
Sorry, but you can't hate someone you don't care about. Either you don't care, or you hate, you can't do both. Too many people think that hate is the opposite of love but that's just not true. Love and hate are on the same side of the coin. The opposite of love, and therefore the opposite of hate, is indifference. If you truly "don't care" about someone then you don't care! You don't care what happens to them and their thoughts, feelings, and actions make no difference to you; they don't affect you positively or negatively. But as soon as you claim that you hate someone, then that shows that you care about them. You care about what they are saying and what they are doing. You care enough about them that you are letting it affect you...and to hate them for that means that you care a lot!
Over the last couple of days I have been doing some serious research into certain things that interest me within the Metal community and I've been coming across more and more evidence that many in this community are full of crap. Don't worry, I still like you, I just think you need to get a clue.
There's a lot of focus on hating one group or another for whatever reason and many of the loudest screamers are shouting about how things need to be one way for them and another way for "the masses." A recent example is Behemoth's Adam "Nergal" Darski being "crusaded" against by the Catholic Church. I find the reaction to this laughable. All the pro-Nergal folk are railing against the Church for doing exactly what the Metal community have been doing to the Church for decades! Hell-o! Turnabout is fair play. You expect them to sit back and take your vitriol but you get your nose out of joint when you get what you've just served! Poor babies.
And why is it that all of your ire is seemingly reserved for Christianity? As a student of history I'm well aware that it's not only Christians who have waged wars and forced their belief systems on others. So why focus only on them? My guess is that you care. You care a lot. And what you care so much about is the fact that you are confused by the fact that you care. Do you even know what you believe? Do you even know what they believe? Some of you profess to be against them because of their morality but you obviously fail to realize that morality is vitally necessary to the survival of any group! How many of you vilify those that the media tells you are guilty of a crime? Well, if "morality" is so useless then where's the crime?
Morality is not a Christian construct. Our societies have certain rules governing the conduct of the people in them. Those rules are necessary because without them we would be living in chaos. And those of you who think that would be fine better take a good hard think about what that actually means. Even the most Chaos-loving organizations are just that, organized. Where there is organization there can be no chaos and where there is chaos there can be no organization. Think about what you believe before you hypocritically force that belief on another.
The first incident occurred very early this morning and had me freaking out for several hours -- I had an alarming dream in which I found out that someone I care about had died. As far as I'm aware "Gustav" still has a heartbeat, so I'm hoping that, like the Death card in a Tarot deck, the "death" in my dream was just a metaphor for certain events that appear to have recently transpired in the life of "Gustav".
The second event, and the one I'm going to focus on, happened just a short time ago on Facebook. Someone I was "friends" with has deleted me. To be honest, I have been expecting it for ages now, I'm a bit surprised it's taken this long. But the reason I was deleted today of all days (I'm sure) is because of something I said on a post of this person's this morning. The original rant went something like, "I'm not really a hater, it's just that some people make it easy to hate them." My response to that was that you have to care in order to hate, and why do you care about someone you obviously consider insignificant?
That's a good question. There's an awful lot of "hating" in the Metal community (yes, the person in question is a member of that community) with people professing hatred toward people that, in the very next breath, they proclaim to not care about.
Sorry, but you can't hate someone you don't care about. Either you don't care, or you hate, you can't do both. Too many people think that hate is the opposite of love but that's just not true. Love and hate are on the same side of the coin. The opposite of love, and therefore the opposite of hate, is indifference. If you truly "don't care" about someone then you don't care! You don't care what happens to them and their thoughts, feelings, and actions make no difference to you; they don't affect you positively or negatively. But as soon as you claim that you hate someone, then that shows that you care about them. You care about what they are saying and what they are doing. You care enough about them that you are letting it affect you...and to hate them for that means that you care a lot!
Over the last couple of days I have been doing some serious research into certain things that interest me within the Metal community and I've been coming across more and more evidence that many in this community are full of crap. Don't worry, I still like you, I just think you need to get a clue.
There's a lot of focus on hating one group or another for whatever reason and many of the loudest screamers are shouting about how things need to be one way for them and another way for "the masses." A recent example is Behemoth's Adam "Nergal" Darski being "crusaded" against by the Catholic Church. I find the reaction to this laughable. All the pro-Nergal folk are railing against the Church for doing exactly what the Metal community have been doing to the Church for decades! Hell-o! Turnabout is fair play. You expect them to sit back and take your vitriol but you get your nose out of joint when you get what you've just served! Poor babies.
And why is it that all of your ire is seemingly reserved for Christianity? As a student of history I'm well aware that it's not only Christians who have waged wars and forced their belief systems on others. So why focus only on them? My guess is that you care. You care a lot. And what you care so much about is the fact that you are confused by the fact that you care. Do you even know what you believe? Do you even know what they believe? Some of you profess to be against them because of their morality but you obviously fail to realize that morality is vitally necessary to the survival of any group! How many of you vilify those that the media tells you are guilty of a crime? Well, if "morality" is so useless then where's the crime?
Morality is not a Christian construct. Our societies have certain rules governing the conduct of the people in them. Those rules are necessary because without them we would be living in chaos. And those of you who think that would be fine better take a good hard think about what that actually means. Even the most Chaos-loving organizations are just that, organized. Where there is organization there can be no chaos and where there is chaos there can be no organization. Think about what you believe before you hypocritically force that belief on another.
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Postat av: cyrollan
I do not ire against Christianity; but I also don't like it. I am very pro- morals though. I believe morality is possible without religion. Not sure others agree though...
Postat av: Jane Doe
Of course morality is possible without religion. As I said, morality is not a Christian construct. I don't believe it's a construct of any "religion." It just so happens that religion, in one form or another, has always been around...and so has morality.
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